Saturday, October 4, 2008

One Of The Girls (Yes! I'm Still A Member!!)

Tonight, I not only got to talk to grown ups, but I got to talk to grown ups of the female variety!

It's so rare that I get to spend time with my friends. And I don't really know if I have close friends at this point. I'm a homebody for one and all my friends live at least an hour away. Also, I'm a bit of a self proclaimed loner. I need a lot of down time and I have to be in the mood for socializing. Most of the time, being in social settings and spending time with anyone other than my husband just drains me of energy. (In fact, my husband is the first and only person I have met that never drains me). Usually social plans feel more like obligations than fun- even though I usually end up enjoying myself. Finally preserving friendships usually requires active maintenance and keeping in touch. I'm so bad at doing this.

For those reasons, I don't really have close friends right now. And there is no one that I communicate with on a regular basis (other than my husband) who might qualify as a best friend. But I do have friends from high school and law school that I occasionally meet up with.

Tonight two girls who I met through law school (both of whom dropped out last year) came over to visit me Jacob. I put together a spread of cheese, baguettes, dip and strawberry wine (my first whole glass in ten months!). We played with Jacob aand enjoyed two and a half full hours of girl talk. It was amazing! I really needed that!

For the past four weeks I've spent most of my time talking to an infant. When I do get adult conversation, it's really just my husband. As much as I like talking to him, you can't enjoy good girl talk with your husband (sex, periods, gossip, boys and politics- we ARE law students and ex-law students). When I do go out it's usually with my husband and his friends (guys and their occasional girlfriends) because he has a tight group of old highschool buddies who are always getting together.

While I'm great at being crass and making stupid remarks like "one of the guys," it was so refreshing to just be "one of the girls."

4 comments:

LEO said...

It's so weird... a lot of times, you post stuff on exactly the same topic I've been drafting a post on... I had a lot of girl time this week as well and it made me think about my friendships.
Your night with your friends sounds so fun and I hope you get to schedule more of those in soon!

Trannyhead said...

I hope you had a great time with your friends. I remember when I started going back to class after I gave birth I noticed I had barf on my shoulder. I hope you looked way hawter than I did!

FSD said...

YAY for girl time! I'm so glad you had an opportunity to hang with your girlfriends. Sounds like fun! Probably just what you needed after the tough day you recently had.

LL said...

Aw I'm really glad you got some girl friend time! I could not have survived 3L year with a baby without my friends.